I’m posting something a little different today, but I pray that it will bless you. I love to read nonfiction, particularly life improvement books. Many of my conversations with friends include a sentence that starts with, “Well, I was reading this book…” then I share a statement or piece of advice that stuck with me.
I just finished reading a book by Pastor Scott LaPierre and I started quoting it in conversation before I had finished reading it! Scott and I are in several blogging groups together and his posts are always interesting and usually convicting! When he asked me to review his book, Marriage God’s Way, I said I’d be honored.
Disclosure: I was provided with a manuscript in order to write a review. Regardless of that, I am sharing my honest opinions of the book. Some of the links below are affiliate links, meaning at no extra cost to you I receive a small commission allowing me to fund this site and contribute to my family.
I’m pleased to recommend this book to my readers. Here’s why:
It’s full of scripture
The title tells you exactly what you’re getting with this book; it’s Bible-based and Christ-centered. I don’t remember another marriage book I’ve read that has included so much scripture. It’s woven into every page. That is one of the things I loved most about this book! Even if I was challenged by what I was reading, I couldn’t argue with it because it was clearly based in God’s word. If you’re like me, you can almost recite the verses in the Bible about marriage. We’ve heard them, read them, and read whole books about them. But Scott dives into the Hebrew and Greek words and shows how the same words are used in other parts of scripture. It deepened my understanding of those verses dramatically.
For example, in Genesis 2, it says that there was no helper found suitable for Adam. That’s where we get our idea of a “helpmate.” Which I admit, I have struggled with some in the past. Something about it seemed inferior. But did you know that the same word used for “helper” (ezer) in Genesis 2 is used in this verse as well:
“Our soul waits for the Lord; He is our help and our shield” Psalm 33:20
Clearly there’s nothing inferior about that word!
It gets right to the point
From page 1, I knew that reading this book was going to change me. Here’s the part that immediately grabbed my heart.
“I compartmentalized my life by saying, ‘I am a Christian first. I am a spouse second. I am a parent third. I am an employee fourth.’ Instead, I should have said, ‘I am a Christian spouse. I am a Christian parent. I am a Christian employee.’ The danger of seeing ourselves as a Christian first and a spouse second is we can find ourselves believing the lie that I bought into at the time: ‘If I can be a good pastor, I can please God even though I am not the best husband’.”
Whoa. I could put a lot of roles in that sentence too.
If I can be a good mom, I can please God even though I am not the best wife.
If I can be a good teacher, I can please God even though I am not the best wife.
If I can be a good church volunteer, I can please God even though I am not the best wife.
Those are all lies that I have bought into as well, either right now or in the past.
Scott shares examples (and not just good ones!) from his own marriage to his wife, Katie. It adds credibility to this whole thing to know that there are real people trying, and sometimes failing, to live out marriage the way God designed. But that it’s possible to succeed!
When I read about Katie, I got several great ideas to apply at home about how to say things and how to support my husband even when I might disagree with a decision. There are times I want to be a submissive wife, but I just don’t quite have the right words. So reading real-life examples was helpful.
If you’re never challenged, you never grow. And what good is a stagnant life? I always want to be growing more like Christ. This book was convicting in several areas and has prompted me to deal with some things in my own heart. I’ve never known a woman who doesn’t struggle slightly with the idea of submission. This book does a great job dealing with the topic and even gives husbands ideas on how to make it easier for us. It also shares other examples of submission in the Bible and from our culture that show that submission is not weakness. But it is how God designed marriage to work. So since God is good, and His ways are perfect, we should do what He says. (I know this, but that doesn’t always make it easy to do!)
I highly recommend this book. If you have any goals related to improving your marriage, I believe this book is a great place to start! I’m even considering getting a group of ladies together to read and discuss it.
Please let me know what you think- was this book review helpful to you? Do you have any unanswered questions about the book?