This is a tough season for some of us. Graduation, while exciting, may cause feelings of loss and emptiness for those left in a quiet home. Mother’s Day, meant to celebrate, can also open wounds for many of us who have suffered related losses. I hope Cynthia’s words bring comfort to your heart today.
I’m writing this as I think back to our son’s graduation a few years ago. Although you may not relate to all my reflections, I trust that something in this post will encourage you.
Our emotions are fickle, but God is faithful.
Lies about Loss
#1 – No one cares.
This is absolutely and irrevocably NOT true; however, someone else’s loss may not be as apparent to you or may not impact others in the same way.
#2 – My husband (spouse, parent, sister, etc.) doesn’t really love me.
Just because he deals with emotions differently, appears callous, or just doesn’t understand DOES NOT mean he doesn’t love you.
#3 – It’s the end.
Yes, it is the end as you know it, but it’s NOT the end of life. God still has great things in store. Your season has just changed.
During the year that our son was to graduate from high school, I felt like I was heading toward a cliff. There was an abysmal chasm staring me in the face. I threw myself into his open house preparations – final touches on his posters, his albums, etc. Then I put on a smile. but . . . inside I was dying. I had poured my life into this our firstborn son . . . and now he was leaving. Utter devastation!
Grieving is a natural process: it’s the result of a loss. (Even though our son was still under my roof, I felt like I was losing him forever.) Acknowledge your grief! Recognize some of its stages: denial and isolation, anger, bargaining (even with God), depression. You may have moments or even hours of tears, BUT . . . try to keep going! God had a plan for our son and for me (and still does!!). Life hadn’t ended: I still had “work” and ministry (to my family and to others). Help me, Lord!
Use Truth to Cope
Don’t look to others to fill the void in your heart. Look to God and God alone. If you have time, stop right now and read Psalm 62.Don’t look to others to fill the void in your heart. Look to God and God alone. Click To Tweet
That you, O God, are strong and that you, O Lord, are loving . . .My hope comes from You!
My dad used to remind me regarding emotions that after a “high” there is always a “low.” Graduation, a wedding, Christmas, a big family gathering – these are “highs.” Recognize the “low” that often follows such events. Your emotions are real but they don’t have to define you or bring you to a shrieking halt.
Instead do the following:
- Slow down. Recognize why you feel the way you do. It’s part of the grieving process.
- Take time to pray and “pour out your heart before Him” (Ps. 62:8b)
- Let God (not other unhelpful substitutes) soothe your aching soul with His Word.
In God is my salvation, and my glory: the rock of my strength, and my refuge is in God.
Friend, don’t forget who you are – a child of the King: His valued, treasured possession. He longs to be your comfort. Let Him.God longs to be your comfort. Let Him. Click To Tweet
Your sister in Christ,
Cynthia and her husband have three grown, married children and a grandson. They recently added a not-so-little puppy to their home. She enjoys outdoor activities, swimming, reading, writing, gardening and art. Her passion is sharing insights from God’s Word and helping others apply His truth to daily life.
How do you cope in seasons of loss? What bible verses or songs bring you comfort?